to my fellow freshman girlies out there, go parties in groups, don’t walk alone late at night, and if you sense some shady shit going on don’t hesitate to interfere. trust your gut. people are getting sicker by the minute and nothing seems to be changing anytime soon.
PS: CHECK YOUR LOCAL LAWS REGARDING WEAPON PURCHASING
I’m not lying fuck men omfg
as a former RA, who has seen way too much of this shit, it is important to highlight that most of these assaults will not be someone grabbing you from behind a bush or something – a lot of the weapons used against you will be social convention and alcohol/drugs.
it will be at parties. surrounded by people, where you lose sight of a friend and you’re surrounded. it will be guys “making sure to bring you home” while you’re drunk. it’ll be “come on over and let’s watch a movie”, it’ll be so many insidious things.
please always push back from any pressure or challenge to your boundaries. GET LOUD. your physical and mental health is SO much more important than how “cool” you seem. make a fuss, and it might make things awkward, but it’ll be so much better than the alternative. i’ve had so many of my residents come back for the night, so regretful about staying silent while a guy felt her up because she didn’t want to rock the boat or “ruin the mood” of the party. DO IT.
keep a friend, a trusted friend, preferably a girl, and use the goddamn buddy system.do not let your buddy out of sight. keep together at all times, and not just at parties – even at casual outings. new roommate? talk to them about how you want to stick together and make sure nothing happens.
do not go anywhere alone for the first month (this is also just a good practice to meet new people and find new friends lol). go to campus-run events, which are usually more tame and supervised (and still fun!).
know the red flags, and always be cautious of going alone with any man – ESPECIALLY if they’re older. that includes going to parties, movies, even out to lunch.
i don’t want to scare people at all, i really want you to be safe. know that there are campus resources if things do happen, but when it comes down to it, CALL THE POLICE. campus police and counselors can help you deal with trauma and change your classes so you’re away from your assailant, but they’re ultimately working for the university that doesn’t want to report assaults. grab a friend to stay with you to support you – hell, if you live in a residence hall, most RAs have been trained with crisis counseling and will stick with you to the end, and CALL THE POLICE.
pepper spray is a good start, but half the battle is knowing the warning signs and sticking together, and never being afraid to fight back.
apparently ill be here for a while. anyway. my name is nox and my blog has been deactivated for “hoarding” urls so im here until it is reactivated. it would mean the world if you could reblog this so mutuals and followers could find me again.
Hey y’all I’m in a bit of a situation financially including my bank slamming me with fees and textbooks that were way more expensive than I anticipated so:
Does anyone want any OCs drawn or fan art? HMU!
I’m doing $10 a sketch (really they’re detailed drawings) or $15 inked & colored.
hi y’all! lately i’ve saved a ton of urls that i thought i’d use for some sideblogs eventually, but then i realised i won’t use all of them (yeah, aren’t you surprised i could have such an enlightened thought?), so i thought i’d do a mini url giveaway!
rules:
you don’t have to be following me, but it’d be nice if you did!
hi guys, i’m sorry to be making something like this again. my name is madison and i’m a jewish lesbian from philly. i’m an incoming sophomore to my university and i come from a low income household. i am moving into a university affiliated apartment that i will pay for with a student loan and a co-op job, which i don’t receive the loan until late september and do not start my job until the same time as well.
as you can see, i have a payment plan in the works, but need some money. i will have 25 dollars less tomorrow because of therapy and i need a few hundred dollars for transportation to my job (a monthly pass for the train and two weekly pass) and for rent. my abusive mom is also threatening to cut me off from any little help that she did give me. i may have to stay at a friend’s soon because of this (i am currently at my partner’s and have yet to see her for two weeks)
if anyone could help my paypal is paypal.me/madisonmazeltov . i’m really sorry again if this seems like not a big issue but it’s mainly everything coming to a head and my mom. thank you
hey guys please help madison!! she is a gem and extremely smart and talented and deserves the best out of her college experience without this kind of stress.
so i’m probably going to be kicked out because i’m short on rent again i fucking hate living like this
anyway my paypal ispaypal.me/callieanne in case anyone has some spare change lying around that they don’t need, don’t feel obligated it’s cool, just weighing my options
this sounds absolutely insane to me. I reached 800 followers in 3 months, wow honestly I’m speechless. But of course, this would have been just a dream if it weren’t for my lovely mutuals + followers. So, this is for you. Thank you guys so so much, I love each and every one of you and I hope you guys are having a lovely day<3
For this celebration, I will be creating a mythology family, doing various formats of blog rates and more!
Blacklist #malias800 if you don’t want to see any posts relating to this!
a temporary url change bc i’m currently obsessed with the to all the boys i’ve loved before movie. we’ll see how long this lasts and when i’ll go back to @malcolmfade. i couldn’t not use this url though 🙂
signal boosts appreciated! or roasts bc i changed my url again
Hey guys. I’m just gonna be blunt here: I need help. I need a lot of help (more than I really want to admit), and I don’t know where to start.
On Sunday, August 12, I was driving home from Reno (where my Mom lives) to my home in California (where my Dad and I live) when my car’s engine seized as I was on the highway, causing smoke to start pouring out from under the hood as I was driving. I (luckily) made it to an exit as soon as I noticed the sounds/smoke coming from my car, but as soon as I coasted to the end of the lane, my car died.
Later that same day, my Dad came to pick me up from my mom’s (it’s a 2 hour drive) and on the way back home, his car had very, eerily similar problems as mine, and his car lost all power and we were forced to exit, and his car stopped and the engine wouldn’t turn over.
I was called today by the shop I had my car towed to, and a piston broke, and flew off at such a high power that it blew a hole in the side of my engine, so my car is totalled.
My dad’s car needs a new engine because his blew up in a very, very similar fashion to mine. He just had work done on his car a week ago, so he doesn’t know how or even if he’s going to be able to repair his car. We both have over 200,000 miles on our cars and I just drained my savings in May to pay for half of my car, so I don’t even know what to do.
My dad, who’s a single father and has done his best to raise me by himself for my life, doesn’t have a car. I don’t have a car, anymore either. He’s been taking the train to and from work for the past 2 days until he figures out his options and what makes the most sense for us.
I don’t have a job, though I am currently looking for one. Seeing as I have no job, I currently have no way to pay for any repairs or a replacement used car, or to pay my monthly bills (I don’t pay rent seeing as I live with my dad, but I owe $175 per month for my phone and car insurance). I have about ten dollars in on of my accounts, and in my other account I’m currently over-drafted by $40, so I really need help. (I don’t have any credit cards, only 2 debit ones.)
If any of you reading this would like to help me I can’t emphasize how incredibly appreciated and helpful it would be. Even if it’s a “small” amount, everything would be appreciated and I would be immensely grateful towards. If all of my followers even donated just 50 cents, I cannot begin to tell you how much it would help. Any amount of money, no matter how small or large, would be enough to help get me and my dad on our feet again.
I’m not making this post to make anyone pity me, but just to say that I don’t know what else to do. I’m lost, I have no way of paying for anything currently while I’m out a job, and I need a lot help. I really do. I can’t do this by myself.
If you would like to help me, there are a few ways you can:
I am absolutely more than willing to share information about the cars and anything else I can because I realize that not everyone on the internet is honorable with their intentions with donation posts like these, so if you have any questions whatsoever, my ask box is open and I’m happy to answer them as transparently as I possibly can.
Again, and I cannot stress this enough: any amount will be helpful and I will be so appreciative of. There is no such thing as “too small an amount” to donate. Every single little bit helps, especially since I know so many of you are in the same boat as me, and money is tight all around.
To those of you who’ve read to the bottom: thank you for reading this post and thank you if you choose to help me. It means more to me than you could know.
life is not a song 